welcome to coolville

Mood: ok
Listening to: jump around-house of pain

ok, i need some adult wisdom. i really don't know what to do.

a friend of mine that i haven't talked to for about a year or so called and asked to get back together because she had something serious to tell me. i met her at the mall and she told me she was 3 months pregnant. i congradulated her but, she almost immediatly went into this sob story about how if she doesn't get money to help pay for some of the babys things, she won't be able to take care of it. now, i work and really earn my paycheck. i'm only making maybe $150  every two weeks. i'm really struggling with this because, i know i should help her but, she did this to herself. this girl is 16 years old. she can get a job. she said she'd pay me back after the baby was born, but then added, "maybe you could be it's nanny". nanny? and what is she going to be doing? why can't her mother help her? or, the father of the child? she said she wasn't going to file for child support because she was too embarassed to. what? that's how the guy is "disciplined". if you just let him get away he'll go and do it again. but, if he's paying $500 every month he's gonna think twice before getting another girl pregnant. i talked to my parents about helping her and they had different opinions. my mom said i should help and my dad said i should'nt. my mom's reason for helping her was "one day you'll need her help and she'll remember what you did and help you." i know this girl, in V.B.S. when i helped her memorize her memory verse, she would never help me back at all. i can distinctly remember when she did something like this to me. we were at the mall and she was looking for school clothes. she couldn't pay for a pair of jeans that the school required she have so i bought them. later, when we were buying lunch, i didn't have enough money to buy what i wanted for lunch and she said to quote " you can just get something when you get home." that's her personality. i'm just here to help her. my dad's reason for not helping her was "she has to pay for her mistakes. she can't take other innocent bystanders down with her." i can see my mom and dad's points they're making, but, i'm really torn. i know i'm going to need help someday too. wether it's financially or spritually. but, i also know that i can't just call someone up and expect them to just help me when i did this to myself. i'm confused.

please respond. i'm going crazy.

Mood: ok
Listening to: neverland - mettalica

first, let me say, happy fathers day! if your a dad then today is your day to relax. anyway, there was an intresting study done that i was reading about. it claims that children who have tonsils tend to be more mischeivious than those without. hmmmmm. intresting. i suppose now, whenever i get in trouble i can blame it on my tonsils now. no, i wouldn't let them have the credit. see, that makes since. if your child screams alot, and then it's tonsils are removed and it's not supposed to scream for like, 2 weeks i think. or 3. anyway, it would have to build self control. with self control it thinks to itself " i could have this toy now or save it for my birthday" my friends little brother had his tonsils removed and he's better behaved. he still acts up, he's only 5 years old, but, he listens more and pays attention to you when your talking. it could also be that, when before you would discipline him he couldn't hear your reason now, when he's not screaming "NO! I DON"T WANNA!" he's listening to you say "junior, we have to go home so we can make dinner and have it ready for daddy." anyway, just something to think about. have an awesome day, SARAH