Communication can be a dificult thing. Especialy coming from someone who is Dyslexic and ADD. It becomes twice as difficult when such a person has lived 55 years of their life unaware that they had eather of these two learning disabilities let alone both of them.
As the whole saying goes ....If I had a penny for every time I heard myself refered to as dumb, stupid, half assed and backwards , I'd be twice maybe three times richer than Bill Gates.
People get through life doing what they have to do. Sometimes that's not always so easy. For those who may remember the late 40's and early 50's was not exactely living on easy street for anyone. With the end of WW11 and the depresion and food rationing. Spacificaly those living out in the country. Someone had to be strong willed.
Out of my parents I guess my mother drew that straw. Back then they called it Hen pecked. What ever way you say it - Mother wore the pants in the familey.
Side note here - Dyslexia and ADD are inheareted. But people didn't know that back then. Nor did Mother have a clue that, that was what was bothering her. She was mearly trying to get through her life the best she knew how.
In todays day and age a women in her 30's and 40's might be enjoying her children going there teen years or becomming a grandmother. For my mother it ment dealing with a small baby and being confused as to why this child insists on doing things differently.
When $$$ gets tight, you figure out ways to make it through. Studying to become a nurse,cleaning,cooking for a familey of 5, one of them a small growing infant, working midnight shift, all on income that should only cover two adults - I'm sure was not easy.
It didn't leave a lot of room for her to assure that last child that they were wanted, needed loved or valued in any way.
So people learn to get through life - the best they know how. When people don't comunicate with you - you learn to communicate with them - the best you know how.
When you've been ignored for more than 90% of your life, when you've been pushed around - or to one side and preached to that you're stupid - WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU? You know the difference , and you don't repeat it to ANYONE! Preaching and pushing any of your ideas is the last thing you will ever do to ANYONE.
Remmber you're STUPID, you don't have any ideas. So what is there to push off on someone else - like they would even lissen to you if you tryed.
Not that anyone cares......Not that I'm trying to play on anyones sympathys. Not that I beleve for a second that this might change anyone's mind. I don't. I'm just sharing my side of the story and it's your choice to do with it what you want.