Today I went to go pick up my face creams at the post office at
Shoppers. Then, as I left the building I was accosted by this man in a
Mercedes just outside. I think he must have been atleast 10 years older
than me. He whistled and I looked over at him wondering what he was
whistling at. I hadn't even showered yet, I had no make up on, I wore
my glasses and track pants with a green top -- in other words.. I was
Then I stopped walking and he stopped driving. Then, I started
walking again and he started driving. I don't remember the rest but I
remember thinking " god, he must get laid by really stupid gold-diggers
all the time" because his attitude was that he was rich, alright
looking, why wouldn't I? Similar to his reasoning that I'm a girl, I've
got boobs, why wouldn't he? Because really, I'm ugly today.
Are standards so low now that all we need to ask ourselves is "
why not?" to consider dating someone? I seriously hope not. Although I
am a bit of a commitment-phobe, I think I'm an incorrigible romantic
and really the problem is, I believe in things like love-at-first-sight
and fairy-tale stories and i'm not happy with real-life relationships.
If the dating scene now has been reduced to " why not" and comments
like, " I'd do her/him" then I don't want any part of it. It's
That's why despite the drama in celebrity romances, I think their
relationships to each other must be so romantic. First of all.. being
famous, your face is all over the place and so ur always put out there
on the market should you be single.
I have lovely gfs who have not dated as much as they would have
if their faces were as well known. I mean, with all the suitors at your
feet, you are bound to find ONE that's really perfect, no?
I spoke briefly to my friend Jobo (who happens to be my most
eligible bachlorette friend) about dating and how ppl get into
the dating scene. I think that girls are kinda screwed when it comes to
finding someone who isn't a friend ( cuz i refuse to date friends
anymore) and who is normal.
Finding out that he's normal is hard work too I think. The ideal
situation is that ur at a party and u get introduced or approached by
someone who is a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend... just to
be safe, --of a friend. When ur at a club and some really cute guy
wants ur number, an automatic reflex of my gfs and I seem to be " i've
got a bf". Even when it's not true... actually.. scratch that.. my gfs
give away their numbers :s
Ok.. some of them do some of them don't. But I'm very apprehensive. I'd
be giving my number to someone I don't know at all. How do I know he's
not going to turn out to be an obsessive crazy stalker? it's
And if a guy starts dancing with you, you don't know if he's just
trying to get some sort of signal from you that you'd like to talk and
get to know each other or if he's a pervert and he wants to just get
off on dancing close and etc etc. So just to be safe, you say no again!
I'd say, start off with going to better venues than clubs but where
else do masses of gorgeous ppl come together for the sheer purpose of
checking other ppl out?
Ideally, I think I'd love to meet someone at a place like a
museum or book store but if they're anything like me, they're not there
to meet ppl, they just want to find their book/magazine or get to see
some priceless artifact before they die. Although once this really
awkward guy tried to converse with me and I was really.. er.. irritated
and bored to tears. It went like this:
" Um.. so..um.. what kinds of things.. um.. where do you live?"
Hello? do I know you? and he rambled on and on and I just kept looking
to walk away somehow. I was young and probably wouldn't be as rude now
but you get the picture.. it's always awkward.. you don't know what to
do and it just goes to shit.
Actually, come to think of it, this happened when I was in high
school.. I think it's so much harder meeting guys in your twenties than
it is in your teens. Gisele Bunchen ( for those of you who don't know,
she's an uber famous brazilian model who dated Leonardo DiCaprio for
awhile) said that she had men falling at her feet when she was 16, 17 (
say it with me ppl.. ugh) but now that she's 25 not so much! So she
claims to be past her prime and too old now :s
I'm 24 now and that sucks.
I dunno. I think it's harder and harder to find someone nice to spend
time with in today's dating scene.
My friend Li and a bunch of her friends have taken to the internet for
dating. There has a lot of stigma attached to it in the past but I
think it's just becoming a reality now.. a social norm even..but it
seems to be really effective. Well.. if ur interested in short term
things, it seems. Lisa has met and dated 3 guys ( ok there is one in
the workings right now).. albeit, it was fleeting but she's had
opportunities to actually talk and get to know the guy before they
decide to meet. Although she's ridiculously awkward ( it's cute though)
as she's told guys that she won't call them if they give her their
number and that she won't pick up if they call her :s.... she's so
shy.. it's very amusing..
Anyways.. I don't like the idea of internet dating for myself. Half the
fun is having some guy see you at a random location somewhere and want
to get to know you and try to get you to trust them with your phone
number. Like the movies.. so romantic right? It's all flattering and
narcissism but it's still romantic..So, what's a girl to do? Give
creeps in shiny expensive cars a shot because, I might as well?
no thanks. I'd rather be single.
"it's not like the movies.. they fed us on little white lies" - thom yorke