Accepting truths.. first step to improvement
I just had an awesome weekend, some friends came down as a surprise and
it was fantastically fun! My friend Bri's bf's housemates' party was
really fun.. we didn't even go to a club afterwards. We came back to my
place after we ordered 6 boxes of pizza and brought our beer back and
I'm afraid my housemates were woken up by their loudness! But it was
sooo fun! I was wearing my 3 inch heels but now my feet are KILLING me!
At the pizza place,these three guys offered to massage my feet when I
mentioned to Bri that my feet were hurting.. it was quite amusing ..but
probably not so amusing to Mani.
One thing that was kinda a bummer was that we had to hide the fact that Bri was coming up because Ivy, who lives iwth Rob and Amish, had a falling out in the summer with Bri and is violently opposed to Brianna coming down, being included or mentioned in her presence really.. it's actually really quite sad,.. she's managed to become this really angry bitter girl who blames everyone else for everything and fails to take her own actions into consideration.. and now her two friends that she managed to keep from isolation are getting fed up with her behaviour.. it's sad to see her spiral in this anger.. but in the end, everyone agrees that she did this to herself with her unreasonable vengefulness and her intent on sticking it to the world.. that kind of hate is not easily masked.. people can always sense it. Hence, her inability to find love ( a large source of her anger).
What's really upsetting to see is that she's resorted to game-playing, such as excluding people and making it known to that person that they've been excluded.. and friends are caught in the middle of all this game playing inadvertently. Such actions don't really prove her point. They only make her seem a bit immature and it makes me feel sorry that she's in so much denial of the truth about herself, that she's resorted to elementary school tactics to prove a mute point.Often such games are a result of refusing to believe or accept something that is already known deep down inside.. Granted, people have played this game in response (which is never nice to see) and granted she's not the only person who can be accused of such a thing. We've all been there.
I really do want the best for her in the end. Everyone deserves to be happy. However, I firmly believe that unless she is true and honest to herself about a situation without manipulating the situation in every possible way that she sees fit and acceptable to admit to herself, the situation will only worsen for her and people all around her will only suffer worse for it. It's such useful advice that I would offer in all sincerity, but more than likely, she'll make it known that the advice is unwanted, further perpetuating denials and excuses to allow herself to come to a false conclusion; false conclusions she may be better able to swallow and accept.
Bottom line, instead of searching for explanations or methods to numb the realities, find the truth, admit the reality (even if you end up not liking aspects of yourself), and work and resolve to get past it.
tchocky
One thing that was kinda a bummer was that we had to hide the fact that Bri was coming up because Ivy, who lives iwth Rob and Amish, had a falling out in the summer with Bri and is violently opposed to Brianna coming down, being included or mentioned in her presence really.. it's actually really quite sad,.. she's managed to become this really angry bitter girl who blames everyone else for everything and fails to take her own actions into consideration.. and now her two friends that she managed to keep from isolation are getting fed up with her behaviour.. it's sad to see her spiral in this anger.. but in the end, everyone agrees that she did this to herself with her unreasonable vengefulness and her intent on sticking it to the world.. that kind of hate is not easily masked.. people can always sense it. Hence, her inability to find love ( a large source of her anger).
What's really upsetting to see is that she's resorted to game-playing, such as excluding people and making it known to that person that they've been excluded.. and friends are caught in the middle of all this game playing inadvertently. Such actions don't really prove her point. They only make her seem a bit immature and it makes me feel sorry that she's in so much denial of the truth about herself, that she's resorted to elementary school tactics to prove a mute point.Often such games are a result of refusing to believe or accept something that is already known deep down inside.. Granted, people have played this game in response (which is never nice to see) and granted she's not the only person who can be accused of such a thing. We've all been there.
I really do want the best for her in the end. Everyone deserves to be happy. However, I firmly believe that unless she is true and honest to herself about a situation without manipulating the situation in every possible way that she sees fit and acceptable to admit to herself, the situation will only worsen for her and people all around her will only suffer worse for it. It's such useful advice that I would offer in all sincerity, but more than likely, she'll make it known that the advice is unwanted, further perpetuating denials and excuses to allow herself to come to a false conclusion; false conclusions she may be better able to swallow and accept.
Bottom line, instead of searching for explanations or methods to numb the realities, find the truth, admit the reality (even if you end up not liking aspects of yourself), and work and resolve to get past it.
tchocky
