All The Small Things

Late last week my wonderful Ellvis came out to stay... he does that one or two nights a week.

And we were chatting away about some rubbish or other, and he said "Well, when I move out here blah blah blah..."

I pulled him up  - What do you mean when you move out here?

Well, he says, I've been thinking about it. About us. About us moving in together.

Wow.

Didn't really see that coming... Not so soon I mean.

And we had a talk about it - I can see it happening, but it will take quite a bit of planning and organising and thinking through clearly.

I love that about Ellvis. He understands that we can't just go "Lets move in" and do it the next day.

We've both got things we need to get sorted before we move in with each other though. I really want to get on top of my financial situation. This is the year I get debt free. I'm on the way.

Ellvis has to get his situation sorted out with his children and his ex.

We figure that by June or July we should be able to start talking to the kids about it, sitting down with them and figuring out house rules and all that sort of stuff.

I've been doing some research into moving into a blended family situation. Its complicated!!!

I just really want to make sure that we don't do what Mr. D and HER did, which was really poor. They just threw everyone into the mix, and they don't allow time for the biological parent to spend with their biological child/ren. They also didn't allow any time to ensure that the non-biological kids got along with the non-biological parent...

Ellvis spends a fair bit of time with us, so he and Nicky have had a lot of opportunities to spend time together and get to know each other. She just loves him, and he really likes her for her. Thats so important!! He likes her for her own sake, not just because she's mine!

I don't know his boys that well unfortunately - they aren't there that often, and I've been careful not to intrude too much into their time with their dad. I ask their permission to stay the night on their weekends for example. I said to Ellvis that I'd really like to concentrate more on getting to know them better, so that if and when we move in they know me and I know them.

I really want to make sure that Ellvis has time with his boys one on one, and that I have time one on one with Nicky.

So we figure six months to get the kids used to the idea, look for a place and get the house rules sorted.

 

Obviously this is all conjecture and chat at the moment, but gosh golly me, its so lovely to be with someone who brings this stuff up in advance, and says, hey, lets talk about this and figure out what we need to do to make this work in the future.

La la la I'm a happy little vegemite!!