All The Small Things

Aug 3, 2006 at 14:22 o\clock

Forget Me Not... Or Do... Whatever.

by: Sassy1

So I was supposed to have coffee with this guy yesterday.

We hung out on Friday night, and in the last post I was referring to him as  Gorgeous Boy. So he stayed over at mine, in his own bed might I add, and we had a really good talk about how he felt and how I felt and stuff.

So we decided that he rather fancied me... a lot... and I thought he was lovely, so we'd go out for coffee.

So we'd go out for coffee this week, on this particular day, and he'd meet me at work.

So I waited.

And I waited.

And I waited some more.

He never arrived.

 

So being the modern women of the world that I am, I decided to give him a call and find out what was going on.

"Hello, this is Sass"

"Hi"

"Oh, is that you Gorgeous Boy?"

"Yup" Sounds completely disinterested.

"Oh... Well, hi! I'm just calling to find out if you've stood me up on purpose or by accident??" Laughing, joking, lighthearted.

"What?"

"Well, we were supposed to go out today"

"Were we? Well I'm not in town today." Sounding completely disinterested.

"Oh." Disappointed.

"Yeah." Nonplussed.

"Right. Well... I guess I'll catch you later then." Disappointed and confused.

"Yeah. Seeya."

Fin.

 

How weird. I know he's having trouble with his memory, but seriously. I think you can forget that you have a coffee date with someone. Thats understandable. But there are two things very very wrong with this picture.

1) He appears to not give a crap that he's forgotten. He didn't even apologise. This is not good.

2) He appears to have forgotten that he LIKED ME AT ALL. This is rather crushing. I felt like crap as a result of his Yeah, Whatever attitude.

 

I don't care how forgetful you are. If you have a date with a fantastic girl (ie: me) write it in your diary. And put little hearts around it. Cos I deserve better than to be forgotten.

Comments for this entry:

  1. quoteDiddums wrote at Aug 4, 2006 at 18:07 o\clock:Someone did something very similar to me. I thought he was coming at 7; he didn\'t come till about 8. By then I had given up and was doing something else. He comes in and says \"I wasn\'t going to come as I was tired, but then decided it would be better than sitting around doing nothing.\"



    It didn\'t seem to cross his mind that I really thought he was coming that night at 7, and I was putting everything else on hold. Where do they get the idea we said \'only if you feel like it?\'
  2. quoteSassy1 wrote at Aug 6, 2006 at 14:40 o\clock:I do hope you told him that sorry, but because he\'d showed up late you were now busy doing something else and he\'d have to bugger off and make another date with you Diddums?



    They have no right to treat us like that, at all. I read this book that said that men only get away with stuff like that because there are so many women who LET them get away with it on a daily basis.



    What we need to do is stand strong and tell them to get ripped. Thats my humble opinion anyways.



    Mind you, if Gorgeous Boy asked me out again, I\'d give him a rev, but I\'d say yes. I justify this by saying that OK, he has a medical condition, he couldn\'t really help it.



    Thats lame isn\'t it.
  3. quoteDiddums wrote at Aug 7, 2006 at 00:55 o\clock:I was too young and naive :-(. It was sort of \"I don\'t want him to see I was upset about him not coming\" - that\'s probably that\'s why a lot of women keep quiet... at least at first.



    When I look back, there are a lot of things I wish I had hauled him over the coals for! Grr. Any younger women reading this, take note - don\'t let them off with it. Later you\'ll look back and wonder how it was you didn\'t say anything.



    I hope Gorgeous Boy learns from it though - hope it goes well.
  4. quoteSponky wrote at Aug 7, 2006 at 05:45 o\clock:Personally, I would tell him to go jump.



    Either he\'s not really interested and is playing games (bloody fool) or there is some deeper issues there (not just memory loss) that you should probably avoid.
  5. quoteDiddums wrote at Aug 7, 2006 at 17:28 o\clock:Mm. It\'s probably true. He should really be avoided.



    Last night I suddenly remembered another thing about the guy I was talking about - he\'s done the same thing to others. Friends from the office went all the way from here (Scotland) down to where he was staying (London) expecting him to meet them at the station. He wasn\'t there. So they made their way to his apartment. He wasn\'t there. He finally rolled back around 11pm, merry from a night out. Had completely forgotten they were coming. Apartment hadn\'t been prepared for their visit. Maybe I didn\'t put a flea in his ear the night he nearly blew me off, but the office friend\'s wife gave him several \'fleas-in-ear\' after her disastrous visit to London! She was never one to stint on her opinion.



    Still, makes one wonder - maybe he had health issues I wasn\'t aware of.
  6. quoteSassy1 wrote at Aug 10, 2006 at 13:11 o\clock:Oh-oh. I guess I'm going to be copping the flea in the ear from both of you for not following your "avoid him" advice!!
  7. quoteDiddums wrote at Aug 12, 2006 at 23:36 o\clock:We will await events :-D.

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