All The Small Things

Last night I had the most delicious conversation with my wonderful GM.

I guess it started when my lovely man asked me if I'd told Nicky about us. (Why he asked this is a bit beyond me, I get the feeling that he ruminates about things during the day and I know he likes to know just how things stand so that he can go about things the right way. In a lot of ways he's very proper, and even a little old fashioned I think, in a deliciously gentlemanly kind of way.)

I had, and Nicky and I have had several conversations about it. I told him that my main concern has been to reassure her that there aren't going to be any big changes at our place. Things changed so quickly for her when Mr. D. and Shell got together, and her whole world turned upside down. GM and I have no intention of rushing into doing anything, and there isn't going to be any disruptions to Nicky's life as a result of our relationship.  Nicky and I had a chat about how quickly things had changed with Mr. D. and Shell. She got a bit distressed and talked about how she didn't like moving and having to share a room with Shells boy until they moved, and she said that she didn't want to leave our little house.

I let Nicky know that we aren't going anywhere, and GM isn't going to move in here. The only difference for Nicky is going to be that GM will come around for dinner sometimes. Nicky and I are still going to have lots of time with just the two of us, and I told her how very very much I love her, and how I'm trying to do the best that I can for her.

"But we can still go to see GM on the farm, can't we mum?" I said of course we could. She seemed quite happy after that, and we had a little cuddle.

I explained to GM how important it was to me that we move slowly for Nicky, and let her know that everything is stable and OK. He agreed that it was important that we do that.

He said that he'd seen a particular DVD at the shops that he thought she might like, but he didn't think that we had a DVD player, so he didn't get it. (We don't have a DVD player, so this was a good move on his part.)

I love that he thinks about us like that, in his day to day life, and particularly that he thinks about Nicky. He's not just pretending to be nice to her for my sake, he really puts a lot of thought into how he treats her, and what he can do to win her over. He's worried that she won't like him I think, but she thinks he's wonderful. To this end, GM asked if Nicky liked him - she thinks you're wonderful darling. Thats good, he say's. "Do you like her?" I asked, "'Course I do." he say's. "Really?" I said, "I know its a lot to take on a partner with a child."

"I never really thought about it like that. I just love you, and Nicky's part of you. I love you, and I love Nicky like one of my own."

(How beautiful is my man? This was just about the sweetest thing I've ever heard. But of course, he'd left himself wide open for my response...)

"Exactly how many children do you have hon?"

 

 

 

(the answer is none, obviously)

HA! You nearly thought he had a flaw, didn't you!