All The Small Things

I had the most amusing conversation with Mr. D. this evening.

He asked to speak to me after Nicky had told him our plans for the weekend. I'm going away you see, and I'm not coming home until Monday afternoon. Of course, Nicky comes home on Sunday evening. So I have arranged with my mum that she stand in my stead, and for Nicky to stay the night there.

Nicky was telling him about this, because she is very excited about sleeping over at Grans house, and the things that they have planned to do.

He got on the phone and asked me what was going on.

I explained.

He wanted to know when he had to bring Nicky back.

Sunday, as usual.

But she hasn't got school on Monday.

No, she hasn't. She's got a public holiday.

And you aren't going to be home.

No I'm not. But I've made plans for Mum to look after Nicky.

So you aren't going to let me keep her for an extra day then.

No. No I'm not. From now on Mr. D., we play by the rules. And the papers say that she stays with you weekends, and me weekdays. So thats what we are going to do.

But its a holiday. She spends holidays with me.

Its a public holiday, not school holidays. She needs to come home on the Sunday evening as usual.

Fine.

 

He wasn't happy. Which amuses me for the reason that had he been even remotely nice during the months that have preceded this conversation, I probably would have offered him the extra day with Nicky. I always used to, if I had something to go to, or if it was his birthday, or if there was a family event on that he'd like Nicky to go to. But he's been such a complete bastard that I'm not interested in being nice anymore. My being nice has been construed by him as a lack of love on my behalf for my lovely Nicky. He used those dates in court as evidence that I don't care about her.

I'm not going away because I don't want to have that time with Nicky, on the contrary, I want to spend as much time with Nicky as possible. Thats why I've bent my whole life around looking after her, and changed my hours at work so I can be there for her. But this weekend has been planned since before the courtcase, its for my birthday and my girlfriends hens party, and I want to go. I know that Nicky will have a wonderful time with Gran, and that this one night is going to be made very special for her. She's already looking forward to it. She's so excited that she was telling Mr. D. all about it, for crying out loud.

So now he has an interesting choice. He can bring Nicky back on Sunday as he should, or he can not.

He could always choose not to, and hold onto Nicky until Monday evening. That would mean that he's broken the papers, and he'll be in breach of the court. That would give me a lot more power going into more negotiations. I really should ring tomorrow and find out what happens if he does that.

I hope that he does the right thing... but he hasn't exactly got the best track record happening lately, does he! I'll keep you posted on that one.

 

 

In other news, I had a lovely conversation with GM's mum today. Nicky had been asking me in the last week or so when we are going to see GM, when we are going to see GM's Mum, when we are going to see GM's sister. So I thought it couldn't hurt to head into GM's Mums shop and say hello.

She was so pleased to see Nicky, and gave us both a big hug and kiss hello. She said that she'd missed us - and we chatted for about an hour.

Interesting things to come out of the conversation:

* GM isn't drinking at home or after work anymore. At all. The only time he's been out was on Friday when I saw him. She saw this as a positive sign that he was thinking about his behaviour and the ramifications... losing me from his life.

* GM is being a complete homebody - he has hardly been off the farm. Which is very un-GM. He was always ducking into town before, and now he doesn't. This is an interesting one. I'm going to go way out there and assume that he's getting the opposite reaction from people around town to the one that I'm getting. I'm hearing a fairly constant stream of "you could do better" "better off without him" "he's mad for letting you go". If he's been getting "you're an idiot for leaving her" "you'll never do that well again" "she can do better" then maybe he's over hearing that, and is therefore avoiding town to avoid those comments. Thats just pure conjecture of course, but the townsfolk are VERY forthcoming with their opinions. It could be that he's just broke or something. Or hiding from me! LOL

* He hasn't told his parents or siblings that we've broken up. Or mentioned it at all. His mum said that when he was a kid, he wouldn't talk about things that really upset him... then he'd just kind of POP and it would all come out with a rush. She seems to think he's pretty close to this point. She said she had considered asking him when we were going to come round for dinner again... but decided she'd be better letting him POP in his own time.

 

So in closing - lets all hope that he POP's sooner rather than later, comes to his senses, realises how freaking awesome I am and comes back ready to give up the ales and love me forever amen.

Desperate and Pathetic??? Me??? Hell N.... Well yeah. Ok. Point taken.

 

In other random news, I think the Family Guy is the most hilarious program on television. There's always so much going on... I think you'd need to watch each episode about twenty times to get all the little references and background jokes. But who has time for that right... Oh, yeah. Me. Well if I had a DVD player... and the shows on DVD... maybe. Maybe I would.

 

And now, we return to my regularly scheduled and very exciting life... ironing in order to pack.

Or maybe I'll just pack things that don't need ironing, and break out the biscuits and dip?

HA! Anyone who knows me knows which one of those options will win!!!

 

Have a lovely long weekend Mexicans, for all of those on the wrong side of the wiggly blue line: sucked in etc. Enjoy work. I'll think of you while I'm swanning about with my girls, and later on, when I'm playing with my lovely girl. Yay for being a Mexican! We can't drive, but we have excellently timed public holidays.