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Here is how to teach your child judgment,the first of those essential skills that will keep him safe.
Mathematics, measurement, judgement, skill building, life.
Putting it all together.
Quote: " The right action at the wrong time - is the wrong action!" - CB.
Pilots are trained on flight simulators.
It they make a mistake it does not kill anyone and they learn how to be good pilots.
You can tell you child: "Here is a 'life simulator'".
"I will teach you how to cross the road so you do not get hurt while you learn".
"If a car hits you, you may be badly hurt. We want to prevent that".
Tell him "You ARE NOT to cross the street by yourself unless you give
permission from me. I am saying this as I love you and want to
keep you safe".
The simulation trainer! (When they have learned it, ask them what skills they learned).
The skills learned are:
How long does it take to walk across the street?
How long does it take to a car to drive along the street?
Learn to judge the distance and speed of approaching cars.
The steps:
1. Learn to count time "Mark, One, Two, Three , ...
Ten". Teach your child to count seconds. Practice
with a clock or watch.
2. See how long it takes to cross the road.
3. Go with your child to stand at the edge of the street. Pick a quiet
street where cars pass by every 1 minute of so. (You can choose
the time of day when the traffic is light).
4. Tell your child: "Let's see how much time we need to walk across the street".
5. When the street is clear walk with the child, count the time
it takes to walk across. (Stand away from the edge of the sidewalk as
many drivers will slow down if the see a child trying to cross the
street. By standing away from the edge of the street the driver
will know you do not want to cross.)
6. Now let's apply the skill. Stand at the edge of the
street. "ALWAYS LOOK BOTH WAYS!". As the car
approaches ask your child if it is safe to cross.
Ask you child to say: "Safe to Cross", when it is safe. If you
agree, say: "OK, Walk!". Explain that you are the part of
the simulator, and
they must not go until you say "OK, Walk!".
This approach allows the child to use his judgment, but since you
give final permission, you hear your child's decision without the
child getting hurt if they are wrong.
Repeat this exercise many times. Let your child direct when you both walk across the street.
7. When you reach other side, praise your child for their good judgment.
Your child's judgment will improve quite rapidly.
Your child will enjoy the sense of control and participation in the decision making.
If your child is uncertain if it is safe, tell your child to wait.
A good rule is: " Err on the side of caution. If in doubt, wait, - and count".
The value of this method is that you learn the child's judgment, and you and you child will see the improvement.
When do you teach the skill? Whenever the child is able. People under estimate the abilities of children.
By counting you can use numbers to help make important decisions.
After you have done this for a week on the same street, you can do it on other streets.
(Whenever you are crossing the street, you can let your child tell you if it is safe but you have the final say.)
Let the child see that wide streets need more time to cross and that cars travel at different speeds.
Encourage the child that if they are unsure that they are not to cross,
but should time the approaching car and see if they were correct.
In this way your child judgment will improve. You child has now
mastered a real skill and can be proud and confident.
You are well on the way to having a safe driver and one who uses measurement to help make better decisions.
Summary: Do not start across the street until it is safe to do so.
It is safe when you can walk across the street and reach the other side before a car comes.
Once you step off the sidewalk, keep walking; do not stop until
you are safe on the other side. Keep watching both ways for
traffic. If a car approaches suddenly and you feel danger then
you may run to the sidewalk is closest to you.
"Learn from other peoples mistake, you don't have time to make them all yourself".
Recommended book: Mindstorms: Children, Computers, and Powerful Ideas
by Seymour Papert - He describes how to debug.
Debugging is learning from your mistakes. An essential skill.
http://www.amazon.com for reviews.