Mey's Journal

Aug 19, 2005 at 16:32 o\clock

Shit.... bloody bloody shit!!!

by: mey2

Mood: ANNOYED actually!!!

I just got an email back from my mum and she is really mad at me.  She said she had been really hurt with what I had said to her and that she was extremely upset with what I had said about her boyfriend.
She said that I should understand that she is young enough (53) to live her new life as a woman while still be a mother.  (my mum and dad got divorced 3 years ago so it is still very fresh).
She said she had been very upset with me saying she didn't care about her children anymore and that she would give her life for us and for her grand children too.
She also said that she will never forget my words  and that I did not know her boyfriend so I shouldn't have talked about him the way I did.  She also said that she needed some time before she can talk to me again and she needed to be supported by her family not for her family to put her down.  She told me that from now on, I would never hear har cry or complain anymore.  She said "as far as you are concerned, I will be forever happy"!!!!

She asked me how I would have felt if she had said such words about my Hubby.  And to be honest... she had said a few hurtful things about my hubby in the past right at the begining of our relationship.. she must have forgotten!!

So I am shocked cause I didnt' think she would be so hard on me.  She took all what she said as an attack towards her but never thought once it was about me being worried about her and the fact that her priorities were wrong and I was asking her to leave her dumbass boyfriend for a little while so he can think of the situation and sort it out.  (I will have to tell you the whole story soon...!)

I am feeling shit though... I hate arguing and I have had a crap summer relationship-wise lately. Even though I am not sorry to see Karen out of my life, I dont want my mother to be mad at me like this...

I am gonna leave it for a few days....

Come to think of it... I am actually quite pissed off with her for being so hard on me.. I didnt' deserve this.  She has no idea how it has felt for me in the past 3 years to see/hear her cry and feel low because of that pratt of her boyfriend.

I better go and finish my laundry... That should calm me down!

Comments for this entry:

  1. shellbug773 wrote at Aug 19, 2005 at 16:55 o\clock:Mey - Dont take what she said too harshly. First of all, in an email you can\'t *HEAR* how the other person is saying the words. That makes a HUGE difference. Coming fresh out of the divorce, she\'s looking for acceptance from any man that will give it to her. She\'s insecure in that area. Just be strong, hang in there. Everything will get better. Give her time to really think about things. She just came right back at you because she felt threatened and like you were attacking her and badmouthing her new guy. Maybe when ya\'ll can *Talk* about it, it\'ll get better. I know its frustrating, hard, and it really pisses you off - just breathe and know that you said what you felt, she said what she felt and THAT is a healthy relationship. Maybe emailing her back and telling her that she can take her time to not talk to you or whatever, you just wanted to tell her that you love her and you will never NOT love her no matter who she is or isnt with. Just that you want to see your mom treated like the Queen you feel she is. =) Things like that might help - if that\'s how you feel.

    Just hang in there sweetie. we\'re all here for you.

    btw: if you were wondering what a redneck woman is, i posted it on my blog for you.



    Hang in there, darling. It\'ll get better. just keep your cool and dont let her know that you\'re mad - let her know that you\'re hurt b/c she\'s hurt. You\'re right though - you didn\'t deserve this. you were just being honest...and sometimes the truth hits too close to home and people get mad. ;)



    *hugs n luvins*

    ~ Shel
  2. mey2 wrote at Aug 19, 2005 at 17:25 o\clock:Shell... you are the sweetest really.

    I think I will have to write all about my mum and her boyfriend so you can have a better idea and you will understand why I have said everything I have said. You seem to have a wonderful relationship with you momma and I wish I could say the same... my my mum is not as warm and loving as yours seems to be.

    All will be revealed soon... Thanks so much for taking the time in writing this comment. It just re-inforce my opinion of you being such a genuine and kind girl. Lots of love

    Mey
  3. shellbug773 wrote at Aug 19, 2005 at 17:59 o\clock:awww, you\'re such a sweetie! I just wanted you to know that there are people standing behind you [though not physically] and we all believe you did the right thing. I didnt want you to beat yourself up over this too much. I know it hurts, but it\'ll get better soon.



    I am blessed to have my mother and I know that. I wish everyone could have a momma like mine. I just know that in time things will be fine.



    We\'re all right here behind you. =)



    *hugs n luvins*

    ~ Shel
  4. SNOOTER2 wrote at Aug 19, 2005 at 18:05 o\clock:MEY, JUST STOPPED BY TO SAY HELLO. WHAT SHEL SAID IS SO TRUE. YOU CAN\'T HEAR WHAT THE INFLECTION IS IN HER VOICE. MY MOM ALWAYS WOULD GET UPSET WITH ME BUT SOON AFTER THINGS WOULD BE OKAY. SOMETIMES WE ALL NEED TO SAY THINGS THAT OTHERS DON\'T LIKE TO HER. TAKE CARE SNOOTER
  5. SlyPixie_Sanctuary wrote at Aug 20, 2005 at 00:04 o\clock:Hang in there cutie, we\'re here for ya!



    Luv, Pixie
  6. mey2 wrote at Aug 20, 2005 at 09:19 o\clock:Thank you alll very much for your lovely comments. It means a lot to me!! I am gonna think long and hard about what I will say to her next but after talking to Hubby last night, he too thought she took my email the wrong way and acting again as the victim (she always does that!!)

    Thanks again for your support.

    *hugs*

    Mey

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