Mey's Journal

Mood: Lazy
Listening to: Extreme MakeOver Home Edition on Tele

I cracked it!  I finally cracked it!!  I know why my marriage is going down the pan.  Me and Hubby have stopped being friends.  And in the process it has becoming increasingly difficult to be lovers...well for me anyway!
We used to have a laugh together and we used to enjoy doing things together.  We have now become two people, living together, who cannot stand the side of each other...let's say I cannot stand him as much as he can stand me!!  We argue for petty things and whatever we do is irritating.  We are a typical husband and wife who have forgotten the essential in their marriage....friendship!

It's true.  You treat your friends so differently.  You just accept their faults and even laugh at things that would make you cringe if it was your other half doing it!  If you know what I mean..... ok...want me to explain that one!
When a friend burps for example, you laugh.  when it's your hubby, you smack him on the back of his head and shout: 'Pig!!'

So me and hubby have got to learn to be friends again.  And that means, go out to a nice restaurant for example and for me to listen to him and appreciate what he is saying without telling him what to do or giving him advice he does not want to hear, and him listening to me without feeling threatened I am saying things against him (cause he is so paranoid) and laugh at things I find funny!  I think he definately needs to work on the trust he should have for me...cause right now, it's kinda dead!!

Then when we have reached the friendship we are lacking, we can concentrate on the loving part....

Now if that does not work, there is no hope in my opinion.  But I am willing to try cause I am such a great person  ahahah

It's pissing down with rain today and that is so flipping annoying!  My hair will wave again!!!   We are supposed to go to a birthday party this afternoon for my friend's daughter Alana.  They said come at 3pm in the pub.  IN A PUB!!!! ... why in a pub.  The girl is 7!!  Why can't they have a little party at home!??  So anyway, we'll go cause Alana's dad is hubby's best friend (you can't separate those two!!) but I will not be drinking. Cause I am not drinking alcohol for a whole month...then after January I will allow myself to have a drink for special occasion only and with modertation.  As for smoking, I am quitting for good.  I will make sure I am not even smoking for special occasion or even just because I am on holiday...that used to be my excuse!!
Anyway, I have bought Alans two little presents from Ebay but of course they have not arrived!  Mind you, I have only ordered them on Thursday night!!.  I bought her a Hello Kitty pillow that she's got to stich herself (cross stiching I think it is) and a Pet tree.  I got one from a friend over Christmas and they are the cutest thing you've ever seen.  Little cactus trees in a plastic globe which is actually a keyring!!  So hopefully I'll receive all that next week.  I got her a card though... so not all is late!!!!

I need a coffee.  Have a good sunday people!!
Mey
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