I've done some thinking.... and it hurt!!
Mood: Happy
Listening to: weird film of tele
It's been raining like 
... pee in here for the last 2 days but I guess we cannot complain since it has been pretty dry in the last 2 months. Autumn is upon us 
for sure now cause temperatures have gone down which is great cause I bought some nice jumpers and I can't wait to wear them!!
I am so extra busy at the moment. With work, that is one thing but I can just forget about work once I leave the office, but also I have to organise a birthday party 
for my son Tom who is 4 on 28th October and I had to book this massive soft room so he can invite his 15 ish friends to celebrate with him.... it's gonna cost me lots 
but at least my house will be clean and not destroyed by a bunch of 4 year olds on overdose of smarties and coca cola
.
I have to send all the invitation by Monday and today I've learned that half term is actually a week before I thought it would be
.... which means that I have to book time off work cause of course, Mother in law has gone to Spain once again bang on half term 
and therefore she will not be available to look after Jack!!!! She always does it. You'd think she'd think 
!!
Anyway, I dont really care about that cause I have lots of holiday to take and I can do with a bit of time off 
. I will probably do stuff with Sam or Sarah and the kids...like movies or walk in the forrest if the weather permits it....
Now.... here the bit where I am doing some thinking
. Tom wants to invite Max and Olivia, Karen's children, to his party. And I can't say to him 'Well no you can't cause their mum's a bitch
'.
Beside, believe it or not, Karen sent me a text last week to ask about Tom's birthday (she simply said that Max and Olivia wanted to make a card for him) and also she felt the need to let me know 
that her Max did not have a party for his birthday at the end of September but only a couple of friends at home so that was why Jack hadn't been invited. I didn't even give a damn about Jack being invited. I probably won't have been able to go anyway cause it was the week-end when me and Hubby were in Spain 
....
Aaaaaanyway, I had to text 
Karen back to let her know that we would celebrate Tom's birthday on 29th and that Tom had asked to have Max and Olivia there so I would contact her later on to tell her in details about the where and the when it would be. I am not particularly looking forward to it 
cause I am gonna have to speak to her which I haven't done since that phone call when I told her excatly what I thought of her while she was crying on the other end of the phone trying to make me feel guilty.... unsuccessfully
!
Today I had an email from her at work saying that she may be away on the day of the party.... then she sent me another to ask what would Tom want for his birthday. I didn't reply to her email cause I had a meeting most of the day and therefore... I did not reply!
As you can see, she is trying her hardest to win some brownie points 
with me. Hubby keeps saying that I should stop the grudge and get on with being friends with her... but I can't.
So here's my bit of thinking: I will, I think, be able to speak to the girl. But I will not be able to be friends with her the way I was before. That is not possible for me.
I am torn though cause I felt so hurt and betrayed by her, than even talking to her is like I forgiven her. But it is something that I think I will have to do if our kids are still friends and want to play together on the odd occasion
.
One thing is for sure though. I may be able to speak to her nicely and be civilised with her. But as far as her partner Pete is concerned, he can run
and jump 
before I will ever speak to him.
He is a creep and he is ugly.... and I dont speak to ugly people!!! (i am talking Ugly in the inside...don't start bashing me if you are ugly on the outside....LOL
...and I am not laughing at you!!!! I am lauging at my own jokes...ALRIGHT 
!!!)
Anyway, you can see my dilemna and I am sure some of you will have words of comfort for me and maybe advice. I can do with some advice!!
Tomorrow night I am going out for my friend's Faith Birthday. But I have promised myself that I will not get drunk and I will have an early night....ish.
I promise I will let you know if I kept my promise to myself.... Please lite a little candle 
for me and do a plittle prayer 
and ask for strength for me to not give to alcohol temptation despite all my friends being drunk all around me. Thank you.
Have a great day
Mey
-x-
In my opinion, I think inviting Olivia and Max to Tom\'s birthday party will be a good thing. They\'re still friends and you don\'t have to be her friend for your children to be friends. It\'s a special occassion and if she tries to make it more than it is [with you] then put a stop to it. You can do it. You don\'t have to be her friend and you do not have to like her one bit. It\'s Tom\'s day. =] So, I fully support your choice and decision in inviting them. I think you did the best thing in the world - you\'re looking out for your children.
I hope you have a BLAST at Faith\'s birthday party. It sounds like it\'s going to be so much fun!
*hugs n luvins*
Shel
*grins*