Eeek. Are you still here?
It's not like I've forgotten you. I've just been lazy. Not much to talk about. There are a few articles here and there that manage to get my dander up enough to almost blog, but then I yawn and stretch and decide that a nap will make it all better. Usually it does. But today I do have some exciting news I think.
Lately Bear's been getting into television and for the first time I think we have an inkling that the girl just might be straight. Yes, yes, I know, where is this coming from? Let's just say that until The Sweet Life of Zach and Codie [sic] I have been preparing myself to be the grandmother of either an adopted Asian child named Ophelia or Steven Still's seed if you get my meanin' and I think you do. It's not like homosexuality is a stretch given that J's sister and cousin and quite possibly, grandmother are all gay.
It's not that I would disown her were she to be gay. It's not that I would reject her. She's my daughter and I love her. I simply see the struggle that my sil has, how she has to hide her life from her parents, how she and her partner have no rights, no legal claim to each other, and I don't want that for my girl. I don't want her to be ashamed of who she is. I don't want her discriminated against.
I would bring it up now and again casually to Bear, my questions ("Soooo, do you loooooooooove anyone? Are there any boys in your class that you think are cuuuuuuuuuuuute? Girls?" or "What do you think about girls kissing girls? Do you think it's icky or are you okay with it?") and she would either look at me like I was insane, or she would nod wisely and not say anything ("I kiss girls, Mom. I kiss you!!"). I'd ask her if she wanted to have babies when she was older and she'd very emphatically state that no, she was never having babies, but that she might adopt a baby girl from China and name her Ophelia. (She's also very emphatically stated that she is never getting married and that she is never moving out. Ever. Her sister has said the same thing as well. Obviously I've made things a little too comfortable around here.)
So, anyway, The Sweet Life of Zach and Codie [sic]. For the first time she said to me, "I like the mischievious one. He's *blush* cute." Normally she says stuff like, "[that character] has pretty hair. I like her best." Always about the female lead. Never anyghing about the male, as if he were an afterthought. I wasn't sure if it was an identification with females (given that she is only 9) or maaaaaaaybe something a little more. But now I hear more about the male leads, which is... something.
Even if I'm wrong, even if she's as gay as the day is long, it doesn't matter. She's my daughter and I love her. And she'll be in excellent company.
