Love is but a flower
"There isn’t such a thing as a person who is a “great lover” with everyone. Phenomenal sex is, to some extent, about the chemistry between the two (or more) people having it. You might be someone’s idea of the perfect lover. But with another partner (even if you do all the same things, say all the same things, wear all the same things) the sex may fall flat.
While there is something to be said for sexual technique , and knowing how to talk about sex , a “great lover” is not in the moves or the talk, it’s in the whole package, and part of that package is something I’d like to think is a little beyond definition.
Even the definition of what is a great lover, can be slippery. If you ask ten people you may get ten very different answers. In a way, becoming a “great lover” is probably about taking things one partner at a time. You can learn things in one sexual relationship that applies to others, but sexuality is so subjective and personal, that you can’t always generalize experience, technique, or taste. One person’s sexual turn on may be another person’s deal-breaking turn off.
To answer the first part of your question, there is a way to find out what your partners (past and present) think about sex with you. Ask them, but choose the right time and not just before love-making~"
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Personally I think becoming a 'great lover' takes being with the 'great love' of your life :). Sex can be good perhaps with several different partners, but... a Great Lover to me, means, sharing your life with your Great Love!
