Heartbreak...thereasons and the solutions.
One of the most common issues I am running into in this ministry is the desire for most heartbroken people to want to change the other person. It's just not possible.
Over the past 5-years I have learned that the only way we can change another person is to change ourselves first and in doing so we realize a lot of stuff we never would have otherwise.
Secondly, I realized that women are their own worst enemy. WE MAKE BAD CHOICES! We pick our partners for all the wrong reasons and then wonder why they end so ugly.
I had one gal write me last night to ell me that ShE didn't choose the wrong man, God did...um...NOT!
It wasn't until I let God make the choice for me that I finally found the perfect partner. I've been blissfully married ever since!
One of my members who is standing for the restoration of her marriage recently told me that she was making a list, on paper, of all of the things her estranged husband needed to apologize for. She stated she wanted him to apologize for everything on the list and went on to tell me how she expected him to apologize...what do we call this?
A control freak.
for those of us who are or who are recovering control freaks, this is the best way to lose him forever. Are you one of those women who has stripped your man of his manhood? I used to be. then I found myself alone...very alone.
If you are one of these women and recognize it, I'd love to hear from you. maybe we can work through the problem together. I'd like to hear other "control freak" stories as well.
